MY first summer season at The Source Of Wellbeing is over. And it has given me huge insight into the ‘typical expats’ who move to southern Spain.
My conclusions about attitudes, behaviours and motivations will stir unease – maybe even rage – in some. But as a ‘change coach’ I am not in the business of being ‘nice’. I exercise ‘tough love’ so people can see their ‘reality’, giving them a fighting chance to change.
Be aware! Running away will eventually get you, even in southern Spain. So many people come here thinking it will change everything. What they seem to forget is that they can never escape from themselves.
Other people, places and things are not to blame for their circumstances, only themselves. For those unwilling to face up to the reality of what brought them to where they stand today, even the Spanish sunshine remains powerless to help.
Although many don’t even see the sun anymore. It’s blotted out by the dark cloud of gloom, doom, groaning and gossip that hangs over their lives, obscuring any feeling of gratitude for being lucky enough to live in this beautiful country.
And for a great many it gets worse over time – the lack of life purpose, the disconnection from old friends, job and family. Instead of asking themselves why they have the same nagging doubts they felt in their homeland, and becoming aware of attitudes and behaviour patterns that got them to this point, they turn to emotion-numbing substances such as alcohol or drugs. Or they flee into the world of ‘unrealistic’ spirituality, waiting to be saved by God / the universe / angels / a spiritual guru… you name it.
The problem here is only that the universal law of ‘free will’ hands the responsibility for your life straight back to you. No God or angel can live it for you or help if you are unwilling to accept that responsibility and become what we all are: co-creators.
Please, only contact me for assistance if you are ready to become a co-creator of your life. That means being ready to take back what is yours: responsibility and power over your life; to be willing to face all of you – the good, the bad and the ugly; to wade through the murky waters of emotions and shine the light of awareness into your dark corners.
That is the true path to becoming an ‘enlightened’ human being.
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