How to accept your desires and lead a fulfilling life

Why do so many of us create a life that is not really desirable?

LAST UPDATED: 22 Dec, 2015 @ 17:27

martina-willisLAST time, I wrote about us being co-creators of our own lives.

Everything you see in your life right now – the ‘good’ and the ‘bad’ – you actually created, even if you are not aware you are a co-creator.

So why do so many of us create a life that is not really desirable?

Deep-rooted emotions around beliefs and values stand in the way of us becoming the best we can be. These values and beliefs are not rooted in the ‘reality’ of who we really are: lovable, powerful and all-deserving co-creators of our lives.

Instead, they have been handed down to us from generation to generation and, ultimately, from our parents.

They are deeply-rooted in our subconscious, and, unwittingly, we accept these beliefs and values as our own, allowing them to shape our lives by driving our emotions.

The most destructive belief I come across while working with my female clients is that to have female desires is to be ‘a bad girl’.

This is so destructive, because desires are the all-driving force behind our sparks of inspiration.

Desire is the ‘place of conception’, where humans become ‘pregnant’ with visions of how life should be, before taking whatever action is needed to turn that vision into reality.

To state it bluntly: no desires, needs or wants – no life creation. Where there is no desire, there is no need to create anything, and so we stop fulfilling our life purpose – which is to be co-creators of our lives, to grow, to learn and become the best we can.

However, I am aware it is hard for a woman to shake off this idea of being ‘a bad girl’ if she isn’t devoting her whole life to her family, because this belief runs so deep in our society.

I apologise for leaving men out of this discussion, but, for men, it is socially acceptable to have desires (for power and for money, for example), and men follow their desires most of the time. Hence our society is male-driven, and we have such inequality between the sexes.

The good news is that we have the power to reconfigure everything in our lives, and to become powerful beyond measure. It is possible for a woman to shake off the notion of being a bad girl, accept her desires and start creating a fulfilling life.

Today, we have many female role models who, despite what society thought of them, followed their desires and created great things.

In order to help women who are ready to step out of the ‘bad girl’ mindset and finally take charge of their lives, we run a support group. On the first Saturday of every month powerful women share their stories and support each other in the face of adversity.

• For further information about the group, or awareness coaching to change your life, click here or contact Martina Willis on [email protected] or call  +34 951 20 43 06.

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